Limiting Beliefs

I’d like to start with a quote today.

“Most people still embrace the idea that our fate is written in our DNA. It’s puzzling that determinism is so attractive to so many people; maybe it’s appealing to view yourself as a defined entity and your fate as determined. Maybe it’s in our nature to accept our condition.

There is an irony to that. When people believe that their abilities and traits are fixed, interventions meant to improve academic performance or qualities such as resilience and openness to new experiences have little effect. But if you tell people that their brain can change, it galvanizes them. You see a rapid improvement in things like motivation and grades, or in resilience in the face of setbacks. None of that happens, at least not as readily in people who believe they are stuck with the brain they have.”

Henry Ford said it a little more concisely, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you’re probably right.” What you believe about yourself has an incredible effect on the results you get. I cringe every time I hear somebody say, “I’m just unlucky”, or “I just always seem to be broke” or “I never seem to have enough (fill in the blank)”. These people are reinforcing powerful negative beliefs they have about themselves.

One of the fundamental keys to success is to be ever vigilant for these negative messages. Once you find them, you don’t just eliminate them; you replace them with more powerful positive messages. For instance, “I’m just unlucky” becomes “I’m incredibly lucky because… (then list five things you are grateful for)”. “I just always seem to be broke” becomes, “There is always more than enough money in my life”. “I never seem to have enough…” becomes, “I always have everything I need”. By making these simple little changes in your language you are setting your unconscious mind free to find creative solutions to the problems you are facing.

I was talking to Robin and she was telling me about some people she recently interviewed. She said there was one guy who spent the entire interview telling her what was impossible. Every time she would make a suggestion or talk about the opportunities for growth in a store the guy would say, “That’s impossible…” and then he would proceed to explain exactly why. Needless to say he didn’t get the job. Most of you have heard me tell the story of the first Service Writer that I had; he had a reason to fail for every day of the year. It was too cold, too hot, school was getting out, school was getting in, it was a holiday, it was the end of the month, it was the beginning of the month, etc…

What limiting beliefs do you have? What negative messages do you automatically send yourself? What excuses do you give yourself for failure? Once you identify them, change them from negative to positive. You’ll be amazed at what a positive effect this will have on your life and your performance.

Dave

1 Comment

  • Janet Migliore

    Reply Reply April 27, 2014

    Thanks Dave. I could not agree with you more. My family’s shop has been in business for 44 years and had we not dreamed of possibilities we would of closed the door many moons ago. We have choices in life, every second of the day and I choose success in every small or big thing that comes my way. I also am so grateful for my family, my mechanics and our shop dog. Our team makes it happen everyday we open our door!

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